Want a sense of control?

Of course you do! Do you feel like you don’t have any? Your ex has all of the control? Your lawyer? Anybody but you? I’ve been there…the process can be overwhelming and take over your life.

Coaching can help you get informed and feel empowered again.  It can just help…period.

The coach can provide you with information that will help you to:

  • Get started.

  • Identify your options.

  • Communicate effectively with your ex-partner, your lawyer or your ex’s lawyer.

  • Complete and understand your financial disclosure.

  • Be prepared to negotiate with your ex, mediation, arbitration or a collaborative process.

  • Create or review settlement options and proposals.

  • Keep you focused and feel supported.


Before divorce, there is always a period of separation. This is a tough time (understatement) with a lot of emotions. Do any of these sound familiar? Anger, sadness, frustration, confusion, fear, relief?

You aren’t alone. Although your situation will be as unique as you and your family, the tasks won’t.

  • If you have children you need to create a parenting plan.
  • If you own a home, you need to decide if one of you will keep it or if you will sell it.
  • If you have assets or debts (hopefully more assets) you will need to decide how these get equalized.
  • You need to think about how things like cars are registered, how to value your pensions and what to do with family debt.
  • You need to know how support factors into your situation.

Whether you are married or common-law, you have tasks to do and decisions to make. The more information you have, the better your ability to make decisions is.


There is no one-size fits all solution for separation and divorce. Coaching is much the same. I offer services that are as unique as you, your family and your situation. Some of you may have lawyers, some of you may avoid them at all costs. No judgement here, just information and support.

Practical Advice

Lawyers can take care of the legal aspects of your separation. Counselors can take care of some of the emotional aspects of your separation.

Who helps you take care of the practical day-day aspects?

Who helps you make decisions about how to move forward?

Who helps you identify your needs and gives you a different perspective?

Who keeps you focused?

Who helps you understand your separation finances?

That’s right! A Separation Coach.

7 Tips For Settling Your Divorce Financials Successfully

While there are no hard and fast rules, you can plan better if you consider these 7 tips.

1.   Don’t be in a hurry – ensure that you have the proper information to make good decisions

2.   Think about what it will cost you to fight for the pleasure of being right

3.   A fair split is not always a 50/50 split

4.   Make sure you understand the future impact of the decisions you make today

5.   Understand the tax impact of any proposed settlement

6.   Don’t base your financial decisions on your emotions

7.   Expect that your lifestyle is going to change

I know that these things are easier said than done. That is why I am here. After having lived the worst case scenario during my separation – COURT – I can truly understand what you are experiencing.